Woman alleges verbal and physical abuse by former DPS director Frank Milstead


PHOENIX (3TV/CBS 5) — A former director of the Arizona Department of Public Safety has been served with a protective order following allegations of abuse by a woman he was in a relationship with.

The woman filed a complaint against Frank Milstead in a petition filed in Maricopa County Superior Court in late June, accusing him of verbal and physical abuse. She also says he threatened her.

The allegations

  • In July 2021, the woman claims Milstead “grabbed her by the arms and shook her violently, causing significant bruising.”
  • In March this year, she says, “thinly veiled violent threats” were made against her in a taped conversation. Here is the transcript, according to the petition:
  • The following month, the woman says she repeatedly told Milstead that she wanted him to stop trying to contact her and her children. She says she kept a log of attempts and that from April to the time the petition was filed, she recorded “approximately 200 calls, texts, emails, voicemails, photos, songs and in-person intrusions”. .
  • The petition also accuses Milstead of using his car to prevent him from leaving his garage. In April, she said, Milstead responded to the severance request by “screaming, making erratic gestures and angrily referring to a property he believed to be at [petitioner’s] home.” He goes on to say that he physically overpowered her and forced his way into the house, and witnessed the woman’s sister.
  • Milstead is also accused of contacting his children to find out where she was and that he regularly appeared in places he knew she would be. In June, Milstead reportedly called the woman to let her know he would be at a specific location in California in conjunction with his annual family vacation.
  • In a text message around the same time, Milstead wrote: ‘There’s nothing you’ve done I can’t forgive you, but it must be you and me until death separates”, which the woman interpreted as a threat. .

On June 27, a judge granted the woman and her two children a protective order. In that order, Milstead is to have no contact with any of them except through attorneys and other parts of the legal process. He is also ordered to stay away from his home, workplaces and schools.

There are no known criminal investigations into the woman’s allegations.

Milstead files a lawsuit

Not even three months later, on September 16, Milstead filed a lawsuit against the woman over a house they jointly purchased from Chandler in 2019. He says in court documents the relationship ended because she’s been unfaithful “many times” and now wants her share of the estimated home equity.

Milstead retired from DPS in April 2020 after five years on the job. It came just months after he was arrested for driving over 90 miles per hour and weaving through traffic on I-17 while off duty. Milstead received a warning after handing the Yavapai County Sheriff’s Deputy his DPS credentials.

Milstead is listed online as the current director of Big Leadership LLC, a consulting firm. Prior to leading DPS, Milstead was a Phoenix police officer for 25 years and Mesa Police Chief for 5 years.

Milstead’s attorney, Larry Wulkan, released a statement regarding the allegations:


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